I sat in church, singing my heart out, and believing in the hallelujahs that I heard all around me. The belief in a better tomorrow is what we should focus on every day. Dwelling on the hard moments only prolongs the hard moments. And as the queen of overthinking, I dwell a lot more than I ever should.
Between the weather, noise, and my body the night felt like it wanted to give me time to overthink. I was thankful Owen didn’t wake up with everything going on. He woke after five just as I was finally feeling like sleep was happening and proclaimed “slep all night.” He was beside me in a flash asking for his tablet. I asked the questions I always ask and he ran off to the bathroom.
He came back in a flash and he asked for his tablet, breakfast, and chocolate milk. I needed a couple more minutes but thankfully he was very calm and he took his tablet back to his bed without much more from me. I needed to wake up a little more before I could get up but coffee was quickly calling my name.
Owen started talking about seeing his friends in August but he only says their names. He doesn’t tell me more information. This is partly because he doesn’t know how to do it and it’s not something he has made a connection to. I asked him to tell me what he liked about one of his friends but I knew that he wouldn’t be able to tell me. I took a few minutes to explain to him what I love about him. I asked him to tell me something about me. Even though I gave him examples of why I loved him it was still something that he couldn’t process. We will continue to work through these moments and I know that he will get it.
Life skills are so important for his growth. He is only twelve but teaching him these skills will help him in everything he does. He is at an age and level where I can talk to him about situations that happened in the past. Before now even talking to him about a behavior that was good or bad in the past had no impact on him. I am thankful for this growth as well and I know it will make a difference as he gets older.
We got ready for church and off we went. I was emotional on the way there because the things we had been working on all seemed to fly out the window as I drove. I have to remind myself that behaviors do not change overnight and that is for me included. I reminded Owen about kindness and grace. It was a good reminder for me as well.
We went to lunch after church with our friends. We had a great time and then we were heading home. We got almost there and he decided he wanted to go fishing. I was so happy he suggested it. He told me that he needed a boat to get the big fish so he sat down on the shore because you only catch little fish that way. We stayed for a little while and then headed home. He wanted to drive by the burger boy statue he loves and then we came home. He asked to go fishing again tomorrow in a big boat so we will see.
Owen had been asking for some toys that he played with when he was little but I got rid of them years ago. A friend from church posted some similar ones and I picked them up from her today. He played with two of them in the car and he couldn’t wait to get home so he could put the alphabet toy on the refrigerator. He played with them off and on throughout the night.
I’m thankful for how calm he has been lately. Even though there have been moments for both of us I know that he has truly come so far. His calmness helps me. I tell him that he is in control of his behaviors and he is amazing. I want him to understand believing in yourself leads to your victories. I have no doubt he will accomplish great things because he has already accomplished so much. Remind yourself that you can accomplish anything if you believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Smiles to all and donut daze!
Between the weather, noise, and my body the night felt like it wanted to give me time to overthink. I was thankful Owen didn’t wake up with everything going on. He woke after five just as I was finally feeling like sleep was happening and proclaimed “slep all night.” He was beside me in a flash asking for his tablet. I asked the questions I always ask and he ran off to the bathroom.
He came back in a flash and he asked for his tablet, breakfast, and chocolate milk. I needed a couple more minutes but thankfully he was very calm and he took his tablet back to his bed without much more from me. I needed to wake up a little more before I could get up but coffee was quickly calling my name.
Owen started talking about seeing his friends in August but he only says their names. He doesn’t tell me more information. This is partly because he doesn’t know how to do it and it’s not something he has made a connection to. I asked him to tell me what he liked about one of his friends but I knew that he wouldn’t be able to tell me. I took a few minutes to explain to him what I love about him. I asked him to tell me something about me. Even though I gave him examples of why I loved him it was still something that he couldn’t process. We will continue to work through these moments and I know that he will get it.
Life skills are so important for his growth. He is only twelve but teaching him these skills will help him in everything he does. He is at an age and level where I can talk to him about situations that happened in the past. Before now even talking to him about a behavior that was good or bad in the past had no impact on him. I am thankful for this growth as well and I know it will make a difference as he gets older.
We got ready for church and off we went. I was emotional on the way there because the things we had been working on all seemed to fly out the window as I drove. I have to remind myself that behaviors do not change overnight and that is for me included. I reminded Owen about kindness and grace. It was a good reminder for me as well.
We went to lunch after church with our friends. We had a great time and then we were heading home. We got almost there and he decided he wanted to go fishing. I was so happy he suggested it. He told me that he needed a boat to get the big fish so he sat down on the shore because you only catch little fish that way. We stayed for a little while and then headed home. He wanted to drive by the burger boy statue he loves and then we came home. He asked to go fishing again tomorrow in a big boat so we will see.
Owen had been asking for some toys that he played with when he was little but I got rid of them years ago. A friend from church posted some similar ones and I picked them up from her today. He played with two of them in the car and he couldn’t wait to get home so he could put the alphabet toy on the refrigerator. He played with them off and on throughout the night.
I’m thankful for how calm he has been lately. Even though there have been moments for both of us I know that he has truly come so far. His calmness helps me. I tell him that he is in control of his behaviors and he is amazing. I want him to understand believing in yourself leads to your victories. I have no doubt he will accomplish great things because he has already accomplished so much. Remind yourself that you can accomplish anything if you believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Smiles to all and donut daze!
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