Breakfast took several rounds before he was full. He was very calm except for the occasional asking about August, Sunday, and if his grandma was going to have white hair. One change like me having a “buzz cut” was the ripple effect that trickles down to every other aspect of his life. Because of my hair, he is very concerned about his grandma’s hair and he doesn’t want hers to be different too. All these changes are extremely hard on him and it isn’t something he gets over quickly.
He mentioned his therapist’s clothing over and over again. He was going over her clothes from all the times he had seen her. This is what is so hard about trying to distract him or move him forward. He does not forget a thing so he is constantly focusing on only the parts he wants. I keep hoping the more connections I can help him make he will move forward.
We got ready to go to his grandma’s and he wanted to make sure that I wasn’t going to stay when we got there. I assured him it was his time with his grandma. He then went on to check about her hair, if I was going to be wearing bunny ears, and if I was wearing a dress. I told him I would be wearing my bunny ears but I was going to be wearing sweatpants. We got ready and off to Grandma’s we went.
He stayed with her for quite a while and then we met up after they went on a little ride. He was very calm with her and did great for me when we went home. He was asking the same questions all night but was still calm about them. The only thing he was really concerned about was me still wearing my sweatpants and that I wasn’t putting my nightgown on that he calls a dress. I promised him I would before I went to bed. That seemed to calm him.
Bedtime came and he was still processing me not changing but it didn’t keep him from going to sleep. I’m thankful he had a good day even though some things were emotional for him he was able to push through them. I’m hoping he sleeps all night so we can go to church tomorrow. His laughter is what I hold onto every night when I go to bed. Enjoy the laughter in the world and let your heart be happy. Smiles to all and donut daze!