“Dashing through the snow,” an unhappy Owen started singing after we had been up for a few minutes. He had gone through all his questions about the weather and what was and was not going to happen for our day. He was not happy with what I was telling him and he was going to ask me a lot more times before our day even got rolling.
Today was not supposed to be like this. It was “celebrate grandma’s birthday” day. We were supposed to go to church, get Arby’s, and then go sing “Happy Birthday Grandma.” None of those things were happening so he stomped around the house singing “dashing through the snow.” He was not pleased with everything I was telling him and he put his shoes on to go dashing but when asked if he wanted to go outside he firmly stated “no.”
Thankfully he had slept all night. Most nights he does lately and I wish I had said “six oh oh” when I told him how long he needed to stay in bed. Although most nights I’m up by “four oh oh” so time truly does not matter. I fell asleep early but I woke up so many times that I eventually just stayed up. I kept hoping the weather would not be bad but I think the leprechauns didn’t get dispatched in time. I’m hoping they don’t mess around tomorrow and the kids can go to school.
He kept talking about all the Christmas movies he likes to watch. He listed them all but wouldn’t tell me which one he wanted to watch. He wants to only talk about them and not necessarily watch them. I thought I would try to get him to watch it with me but it didn’t go according to plan. He took the remote control off the stand and turned it on to the movie he wanted to watch. It was on for thirty seconds, went to the second, third, and fourth before he was done and moved onto the next thing. I’m truly still not sure what movies we even watched but they all were Christmas or had snow in them as he fast-forwarded quickly.
He was getting wound up and wanted to do all the things and get all the answers that I did not have. He wanted to “cut the paper with scissors” but I told him we would have to wait a minute until I finished getting our lunch. He didn’t like that idea so he got the paper and the scissors and wanted me to help him. I told him that if he could do all that he could cut the paper by himself. I knew he could do it he just wanted me to hold the paper. He did it all and then put the scissors up.
Next up on his agenda was showing me the videos on his tablet of the things he knows I don’t want to see like putting chicken nuggets and other things in the toilet with him laughing the whole time. His tablet went out while he was showing it to me and he said, “Plug it” and continued. I told him that if he wanted it he would have to plug it in because I didn’t want to see the videos of things he knows I don’t want to see. We have been working on him plugging things in but he hasn’t been able to do it until today. I try to make him do things that he won’t do on his own unless I don’t do them. It’s hard for me to make him do them sometimes but I have to keep trying new ways and I see the progress with him. He hasn’t shown me the videos since then but he has plugged in his tablet several times with only a little help from me one of the times.
I have to remind myself that I am raising an adult. He is only thirteen but there are so many things he struggles with. The more I do for him the more he becomes dependent on what I do for him. When he is screaming or upset it isn’t the time to teach him but I also remind myself in those moments he does need to learn to calm down so that those can also be teachable moments. My stress has stress but learning to breathe and keep moving forward is what I have to do. When he says to me “breathe” and makes his little breathing sounds I know that we are on the right path. I tell him that I don’t always have the right answers but we are a team and we will get through anything together.
“Church church church Bible Center Church,” was a subject that came up repeatedly throughout the day. And then it was “school school school.” The weather is going to be extremely cold so the roads will still be bad. He told me the leprechauns needed to get busy so he could go to school on Tuesday. He is making sure everyone and everything is staying home. He asked me if the bus would stay home tomorrow. I told him yes it would. He once again brought his supplements to me very early. He wanted to go to bed and get this winter behind him. For all that was thrown at him with his schedule change and the weather he had a pretty good day and is truly growing. Believe in the hope for tomorrow. Smiles to all and donut daze!
Today was not supposed to be like this. It was “celebrate grandma’s birthday” day. We were supposed to go to church, get Arby’s, and then go sing “Happy Birthday Grandma.” None of those things were happening so he stomped around the house singing “dashing through the snow.” He was not pleased with everything I was telling him and he put his shoes on to go dashing but when asked if he wanted to go outside he firmly stated “no.”
Thankfully he had slept all night. Most nights he does lately and I wish I had said “six oh oh” when I told him how long he needed to stay in bed. Although most nights I’m up by “four oh oh” so time truly does not matter. I fell asleep early but I woke up so many times that I eventually just stayed up. I kept hoping the weather would not be bad but I think the leprechauns didn’t get dispatched in time. I’m hoping they don’t mess around tomorrow and the kids can go to school.
He kept talking about all the Christmas movies he likes to watch. He listed them all but wouldn’t tell me which one he wanted to watch. He wants to only talk about them and not necessarily watch them. I thought I would try to get him to watch it with me but it didn’t go according to plan. He took the remote control off the stand and turned it on to the movie he wanted to watch. It was on for thirty seconds, went to the second, third, and fourth before he was done and moved onto the next thing. I’m truly still not sure what movies we even watched but they all were Christmas or had snow in them as he fast-forwarded quickly.
He was getting wound up and wanted to do all the things and get all the answers that I did not have. He wanted to “cut the paper with scissors” but I told him we would have to wait a minute until I finished getting our lunch. He didn’t like that idea so he got the paper and the scissors and wanted me to help him. I told him that if he could do all that he could cut the paper by himself. I knew he could do it he just wanted me to hold the paper. He did it all and then put the scissors up.
Next up on his agenda was showing me the videos on his tablet of the things he knows I don’t want to see like putting chicken nuggets and other things in the toilet with him laughing the whole time. His tablet went out while he was showing it to me and he said, “Plug it” and continued. I told him that if he wanted it he would have to plug it in because I didn’t want to see the videos of things he knows I don’t want to see. We have been working on him plugging things in but he hasn’t been able to do it until today. I try to make him do things that he won’t do on his own unless I don’t do them. It’s hard for me to make him do them sometimes but I have to keep trying new ways and I see the progress with him. He hasn’t shown me the videos since then but he has plugged in his tablet several times with only a little help from me one of the times.
I have to remind myself that I am raising an adult. He is only thirteen but there are so many things he struggles with. The more I do for him the more he becomes dependent on what I do for him. When he is screaming or upset it isn’t the time to teach him but I also remind myself in those moments he does need to learn to calm down so that those can also be teachable moments. My stress has stress but learning to breathe and keep moving forward is what I have to do. When he says to me “breathe” and makes his little breathing sounds I know that we are on the right path. I tell him that I don’t always have the right answers but we are a team and we will get through anything together.
“Church church church Bible Center Church,” was a subject that came up repeatedly throughout the day. And then it was “school school school.” The weather is going to be extremely cold so the roads will still be bad. He told me the leprechauns needed to get busy so he could go to school on Tuesday. He is making sure everyone and everything is staying home. He asked me if the bus would stay home tomorrow. I told him yes it would. He once again brought his supplements to me very early. He wanted to go to bed and get this winter behind him. For all that was thrown at him with his schedule change and the weather he had a pretty good day and is truly growing. Believe in the hope for tomorrow. Smiles to all and donut daze!
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