Oh, how I wish I could find a way for him to live in the moment. He stood at the table watching the car drive through the streets he loves. “Turn left,” he yelled while doing a mix of the turn signal sound and “mmmm.” He then yelled, “he turned right” and was so happy he did it. That’s the way he wanted to go. The joy that washes over him from watching these videos is incredible.
“Take a tablet to church take a tablet to church take a tablet to church,” he went on and on after turning my light off. Words you say one day lead to something else another day. Reward systems and anything to correct a behavior become part of an ever-non-changing focus. I don’t know something is something until it becomes something and then that something is a part of what we now have to calm down and change.
We got ready and went out to wait for the bus. He was jumping up and down when he saw the bus. He could not get on the bus or then to his seat because of the field trip they were going on tomorrow. He kept talking to me and then the bus people about not going to his field trip tomorrow. I sent his teacher a message that told her he didn’t want to go on the field trip. I told her that she could make the decision tomorrow if he goes or stays.
When he got home it was the same thing. He was definitely thinking about the field trip. He immediately started talking about it when he got home. He told me he didn’t want to go. I said it would be a lot of fun. He replied with answers that made sense for all of this. He wanted to make sure he was not going back to the old school. He is very worried about that. I told him he was still going to be in middle school and that it was just an adventure for his class. His thought process didn’t change. Even when he was in the bathtub he was saying no field trip.
The night went quickly. He ate a big dinner tonight and was much calmer than the morning. He told me not to spit on people’s pants. I let him know this was great advice. He was focused on tomorrow. Both the field trip and his therapy came up many times. He fell asleep quickly and was ready for tomorrow. I hope he sleeps all night. He laughed a lot for me and he always says “Mommy likes laugh.” This makes me even happier that he knows I like it. Make your dreams come true and keep moving forward. Smiles to all and donut daze!