Owen laughed and laughed and laughed last night as he was trying to fall asleep. I wondered if it was because of my hair or if there was something else on his mind. It happens like that. When he can’t stop thinking about something he will repeat words over and over and laugh or scream. I was thankful for the joyous laughter instead of the sad screams. It was late before he finally fell asleep after one last “big hug pwease”. It took me a while to fall asleep after that even though I was exhausted. It’s always something it seems. When he woke this morning he was happy. He did have one concern though, my hair. More so than normal. I had a feeling he would want it to be a certain way after my introduction to wet hair yesterday. I have to keep pushing forward I tell myself, not necessarily very convincing, but I know it’s the right thing to do. He needs to see me if different circumstances and looks. It’s hard for him to process it all so I know that I have to keep introducing changes to him slowly. Sometimes I wonder what I can do to help him process changes easier. He was full of words and emotions today. It makes my heart happy when he’s able to make new connections and use his words to express what he wants. He is still learning how to enunciate his letters. His Js sound more like Ss and I have to figure out what he’s trying to say. Add that to his words not always connecting to the actual meaning like “birthday candle” for when he wants his toenails clipped and sometimes it’s a big mystery that we have to solve together. Sometimes this goes smoothly. Other times he gets very frustrated with me. I remind him we are a team and we have to get through this together. Through life, we are given lessons. They may not always be the lessons we want, but we have to learn to embrace them and grow. Today is your day. Smiles to all and donut daze!
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He fought sleep with every effort he could muster, but Owen was finally out. He had a really good day except for a few hits, runs, and errors. He’s been hitting me a lot more lately and then immediately responding with “we don’t hit you be nice”. I talk to him about how we have to respect people and be nice to them. Aggression is something I have worked with him on since his toddler years. With a lack of communication skills, he got frustrated very easily. Add in the toddler phase and we had to go through a lot of emotions to get where we are today. I can’t tell you the times he bit me or would pull handfuls of my hair straight out. I would cry a river of tears trying to understand what was happening with my baby. Now at least in general he doesn’t bite me. I’ve been trying to introduce gradual changes in my appearance to him. He has not seen my hair wet in years. It finally dawned on me to show him my hair wet in stages. Early this morning I wet half my hair and showed him that one side was wet and the other dry. I am pretty convinced I saw my sweet baby O wrinkle his nose at me. But he didn’t scream or try to pull my hair. I waited a few hours and at lunchtime, I then wet the whole bottom area of my hair. This did not go over very well at all, but after a few minutes, he was at least not trying to pull my hair out. I explained it was like his hair when he got in the pool or bath. I’ll show it to him again tomorrow in stages. I’ll lead up to my whole head being wet. One day at a time. I never imagined in a million ways how hard my appearance could be on him. Growing Owen is what we do, but I’m learning too. Find what motivates you and know that you can change your world. Smiles to all and donut daze!
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AuthorI'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart. Archives
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