One more time Owen jumped up and down on the chair, a chair he really shouldn’t be jumping on but nonetheless there he was jumping on the chair. Me, I flinched, I also told him not to do it. Both of which is not how I should handle the situation. I should ignore it and move on but that’s not how I roll. It actually would get Owen to stop doing something quicker if I didn’t attach my emotions with it. Anytime I show emotions or tell him to stop he will do it more often or longer. But how do you stop a moving train. My emotions come out before I can control them. Owen yelled, “been there done that”. I always wonder where some of his random expressions come from. Some of them I hear from videos he watched or books we’ve read but I can’t always figure it out. He asked me to make him shrimp for dinner. An hour later he’s yet to eat it. He’s been watching the same video over and over and over, only about thirty seconds of it and then he starts it at the exact same place. I’ve tried to stop him many times before when he will repeat something for this long but all it generally does is delays his process. When he was much younger and before I understood how he dealt with this I would try to stop him. I remember one time he stood at the end of the couch watching the same ten seconds of a video. He screamed and made a crying noise at the end of it and then started it over again. The same actions and reactions went on for almost twenty minutes. I moved him away from his tablet and distracted him for over an hour. As soon as I let him use his tablet again he stood right back at the end of the couch, pulled up the same video, screaming and crying for another thirty minutes. He had to work through his emotions and no matter what I did he was going to do it. We are learning and growing together. Some days it’s about remembering that I’m allowed to have my emotions even when he thinks I shouldn’t. Believe in yourself and the rest will follow. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.