On Saturday Owen did and didn’t and did want to go bowling but ultimately we didn’t go when he started saying he wanted to go home instead of the bowling alley. When we got home Saturday he told me he wanted to go bowling today. I’m not sure how he picked Monday but I told him we could go. I didn’t know once Monday came if he would still want to go but I thought we would try. When he came home from school I fixed him a snack and then before we could go bowling we had an errand we had to run. He did beautifully with that and then off to the bowling alley we went. To say I had to push through the moments in the car would probably be a huge understatement. Between his screaming and worrying about the weather, a fifteen-minute drive feels like I’m on a rollercoaster, eating pizza, trying to not spill my drink that I’m not even holding while waving to an octopus that is in another car. And then we spell for distractions. I’m not sure if the spelling is to distract me or him but it really doesn’t work for either of us. But hey, the good news is we got all the way to the bowling alley and we actually bowled. He had a great time and for the most part was calm except for a couple of moments when he got upset that all the pins didn’t go down. “That’s bowling”, I told him. He repeated his teacher’s name the whole time we were there and asking about his grandma. Going on a day that is out of our routine was extremely hard on him to begin with, but he did well with it. The ride home was a whole other story. I wish teleportation was an option. I know that some of his behaviors are learned, some are emotional, and some are reactionary, then add in how he wants to see my emotions and it is a whole other ballgame. One day at a time. I keep telling myself this is a phase and we will move forward. Once we got home he did great and ate a huge dinner. Bedtime even went quick and hardly screamed about his blanket. I count my blessings and our victories. We got to the bowling alley and we bowled, on a Monday. He gave me many hugs today and a huge kiss at the bowling alley. My heart is filled with joy. Through challenges, we grow and with time we learn a new understanding of the world around us. Be inspired, be the change. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.