You get paralyzed in a moment when everything is coming at you at once. The good screams and the meltdown screams were neck and neck today, followed by Owen saying “we don’t pinch” as he pinched me only enough to fit the remark. When I process it all I remind myself it was a good day and he accomplished a lot of things. Focusing on the hard stuff only gets me stuck on the hard stuff. Owen slept until after five so I was celebrating that victory. I gave him a choice to go bowling or ride his bike. He went back and forth for at least an hour and then chose bowling, after saying no to both many times. He is on the countdown for school. Once he made a choice I told him that we were going to lunch with his grandparents and then he would spend a few hours with grandma. He said, “mommy’s car” and then quickly changed to “grandma’s car.” This also was something that he went back and forth on. He sat eating his second breakfast, asking Siri to translate everything he could think of into other languages. Even listening for a few minutes fascinates me because of all the amazing things he asks for. “I want banana please in Arabic I want chocolate milk please in Arabic giraffe in Arabic I want chocolate milk in German” one sentence flowing into the next barely stopping to let her answer. He laughs the whole time as he’s doing it. The amount of information he must have stored in his brain amazes me daily. We got ready to go and he repeated the three steps of our journey, “go bowling, eat at restaurant, grandma’s car.” He was more interested in skipping to the last step but he thoroughly enjoyed the first two. He has a hard time staying in the moment. We went bowling and he is starting to throw the ball a little more on his own. We still do the motions together but I can see it won’t be long before he is doing it himself. When we left we met my parents for lunch and he wanted the chicken. He ate all of his and I gave him some of my roast beef, sage dressing, and potato cake. I always have him try new foods to keep him moving forward with food choices. He left with his grandparents and he had a good time. However, it is getting harder for him to process that he can’t always go to all the places he wants to go. We are working on meltdown strategies to help him process it. It is almost like a prompt meltdown to me. Depending on the circumstances it can trigger the meltdown and things like not going in the right direction or driving by a certain house will send him into a complete meltdown. When we came home our internet was out. After a couple of hours of nothing connecting to the internet, Bluetooth, or my backup wifi I had no answers and had spent an hour on the phone with technical support. Owen does not always handle phone calls well. When anyone calls he goes through every name of anyone I have ever talked to on the phone to see if it’s them and yells out each name. He kept telling her “thank you you can go bye bye.” Thankfully she listened to me and didn’t hang up. By the end of the call, I was pretty sure it was the modem and I know why and how it happened today. At least it was working enough that he could watch his videos in between the times it went in and out. He had a song pulled up. He said, “that’s spinach” which is what he always calls Spanish. Then he started talking about the tallest mountain in West Virginia. The information that brain holds truly is astonishing. I gave him a few extra minutes before bedtime so he would be calmer and he was out quickly. Through the challenges, the victories are what we need to lean on to see the beauty of growth. Find your smile and let tomorrow be your victory. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.