“Patience” Owen said kinda squealing it. That one word, the one word calmed me and filled my heart with joy. A few minutes before he had walked to me with his tablet and he was very anxious, close to one more meltdown for the day. His words were all mushed together and his emotions escalating quickly. I had my phone in one hand and coffee in the other. When he wants me to do something he wants me to do it right that minute and it doesn’t matter what I have in my hands or where I am. Over the years I’ve explained to him that mommy will help him but he has to give me patience and understanding. We also have to work together and respect each other. I walk him through the steps of asking for helping and waiting while I finish my task or put the items I might have in my hands down. His tablet cover has seen better days. He drops it, bites it, and everything in between. It has multiple layers to it because it originally was waterproof, that features long gone with all the chewing. The rubber cover was coming off, upsetting him. He put it in my lap and then tried to take my hand. I told him that I would help him but I had to put my stuff down. I started putting the cover on it but he kept trying to take it out of my hands before I was done. I told him that I wasn’t finished and he had to wait until mommy got it back in the case. That’s when he said it, “patience”. He’s said it to me many times before but most of the time with me prompting him or talking about it. This moment in time is exactly what I needed after the day we’ve had. The meltdowns have been numerous and spinning out of control before I even knew that he was upset. It’s hard to stop a meltdown in a car when you are turning and he wanted to go straight. All I can do is try to comfort him and tell him I love him. I see changes in him every day and today he showed me that he knows what patience is and understands it. When I finished putting the cover on he put his forehead on my lips to kiss him and ran off to play. Through patience, we all learn and grow. Make today matter. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.