Send up the flares we both slept until almost six o’clock. Technically I woke up several times in the night but was able to get back to sleep. Owen greeted me before I go out of bed. If I haven’t gotten up yet I like to see what he is going to do first. He went to the bathroom, got his tablet, and then came to me. He asked for our friend first. He knew we were going to spend some time with our friend and do several activities. This both delighted him and made him extremely anxious. It’s very hard on him when he doesn’t know what to expect. As soon as he asked for her he moved on to say “good morning mommy I’m fine” before I could even get a word out. He then started asking about our Friday again. I told him he would see our friend. Once I confirmed it he wanted “one hug” and to put my hair in his mouth. He ran to the living room before I could even get up and was under his blanket by the time I got there. The morning went quickly and he kept himself busy singing with Siri. He then moved on to talking with her in French and several other languages. I love hearing him laugh when she says something he knows is funny. It gives me more of an understanding of how much he understands in all the languages. He ate a lot for breakfast and lunch and then it was time to meet our friend. She is helping us with new techniques and advice to help us transition to different situations. Autism is as much about how I handle it as it is about Owen having it so I am constantly trying to learn and focus my energy on how to help him because it helps me. If I can learn how to take the stressors that he is dealing with and find ways to redirect him I know it will help. The hard thing is trying to help a behavior before it even starts. So many times I’ve realized something I did years earlier is now causing a ripple effect and will for years to come. It’s hard to stop a meltdown when you have no control of your surroundings but finding a way to move forward does help. We went to the park and McDonald’s drive-thru together. He has an extremely hard time that any drive-thru will open their window. He doesn’t comprehend that they have their window open so we can get the food. We came home for a little bit and then he went to the library with our friend. I’m beyond thankful for the experience today and how it will help both of us to keep moving forward. When he came home he told me about his experience in his way and then we said goodbye to our friend. When she left he told her he would see her Tuesday. He is making plans. He had a calmly anxious night. He was concerned for the days ahead but happy he will see his grandma tomorrow. Sleep came fast and I’m hoping he can sleep tonight. Each step forward is a step. Reflect, rejoice, renew in the day and your emotions. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.