Sleep has been in our favor this week for the most part and Owen woke in a great mood. Last night I showed him a song that had screaming in it. I told him if he was going to scream he should learn how to harmonize his screaming in song. When he got his iPad this morning he pulled up the song to show it to me. He laughed and walked away saying but not playing “wed zeppelin” or singing. I thought it was interesting that it was the first thing he pulled up. Maybe he will start singing it at some point. We stood out by the bus stop and I love how he tells me the questions to ask now and he doesn’t wait for me to even ask. He knows he is going to have his morning meetings at school with his teacher and he is preparing for what she will ask. He was happy when he came home from school. I told him we were going to the indoor playground and he said no but yes and no but yes and no and yes. His shoes came off when he removed his Spider-Man costume that he wore for his school party so we put his shoes back on. I fixed his snack while he went to the bathroom and he took his shoes and jeans off and told me to put on a dress. I said let’s put your clothes back on and go. “Nopedy nope” was the reply. He was putting his clothes up and he had his jeans and one sock. He came to me and very calmly said, “where’s my sock” and pointed to the living room. I said let’s go see. He walked in there and started looking with me. He said, “where’s my sock it’s here somewhere.” It was on the opposite side of the room so he must have dropped it when he was putting away his shoes but that was such an incredible exchange we had and he remained so calm. To hear his words and him take possession of them sounds amazing to hear. He was playing a game and it had Santa talking about letters he received. He told me he wanted to write a letter to Santa. It always surprises me when he says he wants to do something like this. I got out the paper and a pen. He took the pen and I lightly held my hand on his wrist. He started writing D for dear. He told me he was going to ask Santa for a “new hat” but then after he wrote “dear Santa, I want a” he said, “dog” and then spelled each letter out. He signed it “love Owen.” He grabbed up the papers and said, “all done.” I love all of these connections and conversations we are having. Every time a car parks near my house or honks its horn or people walk by I wait for the screams or for him to take off running to look out the window. He’s thinking they are coming to our house but he doesn’t want them at our house unless he does. It’s always a moment in time. The screams aren’t all because he’s mad in fact a lot of them are the happiest little squeals ever but when they lead to meltdowns I pay attention to every single one of them. That’s why I’m even more thankful for the connections and conversations. Today his laughter was brilliant and his conversations were even better. His teacher sent me a message to let me know he had a great time at their Halloween party and he came up with nightingale for the animal in their meeting. Nightingale is a new one for me. He usually says “n is for newt.” Never give up on the hope for tomorrow. Everything can change in the blink of an eye and those little moments become your huge victories. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.