The journey is not always easy to explain but the love sure is. Owen was sleepy this morning. He didn’t want to get out of bed so I didn’t push it. When he was ready there was no “good morning Mommy” it was food talk. “Waffles milk cereal please,” he said without skipping a beat he went on “No adventure stay home.” He hadn’t even gone to the bathroom and he was focusing on his whole day ahead. He knew that after school we were going on another giving thanks adventure. I have been preparing him for the day. I’m finding that if I talk to him about the days ahead it seems like he is embracing them a little differently but it is also giving him time to think through all the scenarios. It also gives me more time to overthink everything. We got ready for school and we went out to wait for the bus. He was extremely happy as we were standing there. He talked to me about the bus and the directions he was going to go. He walked up to me and he gave me a huge hug. I love it when he gives me big hugs. There are times when he tries to hug me but it’s only because he wants to pull my hair and there are times like this morning when he gave me one of the biggest hugs and I can feel it from his heart. He was doing a lot of jumping and running back-and-forth, and sometimes that’s all his body can do to process what is going on around him. I asked him if he could jump forward for me so I could see how far he could go. This is a request that I’ve made so many times over the years, and he hasn’t been able to understand what I was requesting or able to process that he can jump forward and not just in place. He immediately jumped for me. To see him jump a whole foot forward is incredible. It may have even been closer to two. It wasn’t long and the bus came around the corner. Off he went to school. When he came home he got off the bus told me “no adventure" and was on the porch before the bus even left. His mind was changed before we even walked in the door but it was overwhelming for him. It’s a Tuesday. Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and even Fridays are for staying home but I’m trying to help him realize we can go do other things during the week. Some of those things can be for fun but I also want him to understand that we have to randomly do things during the week even if we don’t want to. I know it is hard to make ourselves go places. It is even for me but we still need to do it. He ate a snack and we got ready to go. He kept telling me that we would go, then we would come home, and I needed to put on a dress. He has to keep it all in order. We left a few minutes early so we could go to a couple of his requested places and then headed to the bus garage. He was so excited to see his people. We followed them to the break room and he was happy. He’s starting to get the hang of these adventures. He didn’t want to leave. After we had been there over thirty minutes I told him it was time to go. He said, “Twenty-five more minutes.” I laughed and thought oh how the times have changed. Not only did he want to stay but he realized that twenty-five minutes was a lot longer than five. It was a great experience for him but in the car when I asked him if he wanted to do any more giving thanks adventures he quickly said, “No.” I said, “Please” and he said, “No.” I expected that though and maybe we will try again next week. He definitely wants to go nowhere tomorrow and I completely understand that. Today we accomplished growth and that’s what matters. Tomorrow we can accomplish relaxation. We need that too. Each day is about the victory in hand, not the race that’s not finished. Make today matter. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.