Some days the wheels turn but the destination is not what you expected. Routine is hard for Owen when it doesn’t turn out exactly like he planned. He thrives in routine but the only thing ever truly expected in life is the unexpected. He woke up happy and he was excited about his day, but it was hard for him to imagine he wasn’t riding the bus home. Wednesdays are for routine but as much as I want life to always be routine for him, he needs to understand that it’s not always that way. I had an appointment that I had to go to, and he was going to be picked up from school by our friend. He was excited about the fact that he was going to see his friend but he also wanted his routine. When we were waiting for the bus, Owen kept about his afternoon and what would be happening. Our friends were going to take him to the park until I could come and pick him up. He asked me about today and then he asked me about the days ahead. He wanted to make sure that he was doing the things he thought he would be doing for the next few days. This always happens when he has a routine schedule change. He started asking about his Friday before he even left for school. When his routine gets changed, he has to make sure that he can hold on to when the routine will be his again. I picked him up at the park, and he was ready to go. We talked with her friends for a few minutes and then we left to go home. I told him we could go a couple of places on the way home, but he had to choose which places he wanted to go. He chose a school that he’d never been to but the bus had driven him by and he also chose what he calls burger boy, which is a little museum with a burger boy statue. He was not happy with my driving skills because I did not go to more than the two places. He screamed at me and he tried to tell me all the directions he wanted me to go. When we got home, I explained to him that we had talked about only going to the two places. I also told him that we can’t always go in the exact same directions that he wants us to go or go exactly like the bus does. I try to let him see the different things that he likes but sometimes that makes the days harder. I never know which way I should do this or if I should just come straight home. Once we got home, he was very calm and he was ready for a big dinner and talking about the days ahead. He wanted to make sure his routine would stay the same and what else was going to happen. He fell asleep, talking about his therapy tomorrow and everything over the weekend. I’m thankful for his growth and knowing that he wants me to learn German tomorrow. Find your strength, share your story, and know that you are amazing. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.