Owen woke early early. He had come to my bed at some point but I was too tired to even think about it. I told him it was still nighttime and that we needed to go back to sleep. He was not having it. Every few minutes he was talking to me and if I didn’t respond he was screaming. At this point, I told him that he could stay up but he had to go to his bed and he could take his tablet. This helped but he kept coming to me asking questions. At least he wasn’t screaming though. When I got up he started talking about going to the coffee shop and bowling. This hadn’t been a focus for him in weeks so it made me very happy. He wasn’t going to see his grandparents today because they had other plans but I kept distracting him when he would ask about it. I didn’t want to derail the bowling train. After we ate lunch we got ready to go. He had started the “coffee shop coffee shop” chant. After the last few weeks being hard on him for our weekends, this was a great sound coming from him. We got to the coffee shop and he wanted “ice coffee”. They make a special drink just for him. It was great to see him happy but I also had to remind him not to roll around all over the floor. I try to make him understand that we have to respect the businesses that we visit. When we left there his words went back and forth about going bowling and not going bowling but I could tell this was more to push buttons and express his emotions. He knows how to pull on my heartstrings and also what to say so that he can see me react. The hard thing is keeping myself aware of this. I want him to be able to make choices but I also have to make him understand that we can’t go back and forth constantly on our decisions. He will say one thing but really wants something else. He has a hard time with saying the correct answers to questions because he likes the negative feedback he will get for the response. This started on apps that would give special effects when he would lose a game. He will say the wrong color of the shirt someone is wearing so they will say the right color and that the color he said was wrong. His teacher and therapists are all working on ways with me to help him overcome this. We got to the bowling alley and he was excited to bowl but he was also stuck on talking about not going to the babysitter that he hasn’t been to in years. He is so worried that he is going to a babysitter again. He likes his routine and he wants to know what it is at all times. I was thankful he wanted to bowl. He helped me roll every ball down the lane and he was good about listening to instructions except that he wants to constantly put his fingers in his mouth and I can’t convince him otherwise. We got home and he started talking about “church church church” tomorrow and that he goes to school on Monday. Listening to instructions today was hit or miss but I was very thankful he wanted to go bowling and the coffee shop. He stayed happy all day. Here’s to a pretty great Saturday. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Yesterday is written in stone but tomorrow is full of endless possibilities. Smiles to all and donut daze!
I'm Lynn Browder. Owen's Mommy. The best moments in time are when I get to see the smile on his face and that giggle come from his heart.